Blessings for a wonderful Christmas day and remember while the gifts are nice to receive, its the love and sharing that is better.
And in 2013, the opportunities about. Watch for both my new mentoring program and a new course to remove regret and guilt from life and help make decisions more easily.
To a no regret day blessed Christmas Day
Everyone talks about trust. Many people tell you to trust them because they are experienced or they hold the qualifications or they have the expertise. But who do you trust?
There are many trust sites-places that say this person or this deal is protected by some form of security.
But should we trust the trust sites?
Do you trust other people’s recommendations? Maybe recommendations help you make decisions but do you really trust them?
Or are you looking for the “red’s under the bed” as we used to say years ago.
Many people, because of their experience, trust no one. They see everyone out to rip them off. Everyone is out to destroy them or hurt them. And because that is what they think, they are absolutely right.
Would you allow a reference to stand that said you were incompetent? Maybe if the recommendation then said you fixed the job.
But we want others to see us in the best light. We only want to tell the world that we did good, not that sometimes we messed up and because of that we made mistakes. And when we made a mistake how did we handle it – blame, fix, refund or what exactly?
If you show me a perfect person, I will show you either God or someone who does NOTHING.
And someone who does nothing, why would we trust?
So who do you trust?
Politicians? Sales people? Your minister, preacher, teacher, doctor?
Your family? Your friends?
Everyone who you think is smarter than you? Everyone who you think knows more than you do? Everyone who you like?
Trust is subjective. Trust depends on many variables.
Many years ago, I learned the concept of small agreements. Trusting people who did the little things – arrived on time, kept their word, delivered on their commitments, put the toilet seat down, the cap on the toothpaste. People who intentionally acted in ways that did not stress me or annoy me. People who thought of me too when they acted.
Trust me. I always…
Well always is seldom possible. Always depends on too many external factors.
So in God we trust:
- - even when Sandi floods the basement,
- Katrina washes away the levies and wipes out our house,
- the earth quakes in Christchurch and liquifaction swamps the streets and your home,
- the ash of the volcano in Iceland grounds the planes for six days and you are unable to get home or away
- the tsunami in Japan, wipes out your cottage in Hawaii
- and so on…
Trust that this is the only moment you have. Trust that if you listen in your heart and gut you know the truth about the situation. And trust that this too shall pass so all you can ever do is your best. You can only keep your word and be the best you and be.
And then trust that this too shall pass.
In the comment, share what you trust? How do you trust others? And why should anyone trust you?
To your future
In business we are constantly bombarded with other people’s opinions. We have clients and prospective buyers tell us that they
would buy if only we did….. We have government, banks and other organizations tell us that we must do this or that to succeed in business. We are told that our opinion counts and then no one listens to us.
It’s tough out there!
So learning to say NO can sometimes be a positive thing. Let’s look at some obvious examples and then maybe something less obvious
We all know that taking heroin, coke and other recreational drugs damages our health and can get us hooked on a habit that destroys life, so saying no to the first offer is good. Right?
We all know that for most marriages, infidelity destroys the marriage. So saying no to temptation is good. Right?
We all know that cheating on your taxes, lying to your client or stealing from someone could all come back and cause us major problems even jail time. So saying no to this kind of temptation is good. Right?
But what about the doom sayers who tell you that business is bad and you are doing it wrong? Should you take their advice and say no or should you listen carefully, see if there is something you could learn and then say no to them?
What about the person who offers you the next great way to find clients if you will only pay them $XXXXXXX, money that will put serious strain on your financial well being and also your family and business. Should you say no, right now I would love to learn from you but to do so would put pressure on me. Yes there are guarantees these people give but the real question is are you willing to really follow them step by step. Unless you will follow step by step, you may need to say NO.
And what about the time when you need to balance keeping your word. You promised a client and your child something and suddenly the timing coincides and you can only do one of the things you gave your word on. Who do you say no to? And what will be the consequences of saying NO. Your child may only ever have one award winning banquet or concert or debut but if you explain to the client. they may give you another couple of hours or days. Who do you say no to? And what are the consequences of that no?
When you live in the now or in the moment, one of the biggest balancing acts you need to do is what feels good in the moment and what you committed to achieve. What do you say no to, instant pleasure or gratification or keeping the commitments you made so that people will know you are trustworthy?
Business is about trust and sometimes saying NO, at this time, we are unable to deliver, we are unable to… is better for the business than saying yes and failing to deliver.
Yes and No only work in conjunction with responsibility and keeping your word. And keeping your word is about trust and the relationship. When you value the relationship, you can use no to tell someone the truth.
And when an advisor, a salesperson or an authority tells you that you MUST do something, NO is an option to keep you in control.
So use NO wisely. Stay in control and enjoy keeping your word and having people trust you and your business. Consistency of good performance is what marks a good business. Funny though people accept consistency of bad performance if there is no other choice.
Today look at your yes and no situations and decide who is in control?
Can you suggest in the comments any other times when no was positive for you?
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