Feedback is neither good nor bad and receiving even good feedback (praise) can lead to bad results.
If you want to grow and develop in business, or your career, or your relationships or just some activity you enjoy, you need feedback. Feedback that helps you grow.
That is why every person who is a champion at anything has mentors, coaches and other people who give them feedback.
The challenge for the person giving feedback is the make sure that it is constructive rather than bullying.
The feedback must be specific and relate to something that can be changed with a sound reason to change that action or mindset. There is a need to discuss how to implement the required change. The experience of the coach or mentor is useful but the person implementing it needs to adapt it to their “personality”.
And good feedback comes from discussion because of a desire to do better.
One challenges for bosses is to remember that their staff has an opinion on how to make things better too. If the boss wants a change to occur with an employee then the feedback needs to clearly state the problem, why it is a problem for the business and discuss how things could be improved. Often feedback, in these situations, needs to occur because the employee is unaware that what they do causes problems. This is especially true as companies hire other cultures and people with diverse backgrounds. Remember that it is possible that even two people from the same family will do things differently.
Feedback and discussion, awareness of the way to do things and achieve a better outcomes is difficult. It is one reason why business owners engage coaches and mentors.
And the challenge for the coach, boss or mentor is that they often are reflecting based on their own experience. They see the world through their own experiences and so when they give feedback they need to be careful. Coaching is about improving the other person rather than creating a clone.
When you hire a coach or mentor, you need to find the person or people who can help you achieve. Sometimes this is a person who has achieved the outcome you desire but often you will need to hire more than one coach to take you through several different aspects. In sports, a champion often has three or four coaches, each helping to work on a specific skill or area in which they have experience, understanding and the ability to analyze others. And that ability to know why to do something rather than just what to do that is critical to good feedback.
And feedback is something that if you want to excel in a particular area, you have to be willing to listen to, challenge and adapt. Feedback is hard to take. But if you learn to take feedback and internalize it, you can achieve whatever objective you really want and feel good once you achieve it.
Please leave a comment about your experience with feedback.
A Passionate, Purposeful Performer